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On Being a Friend

On being a friend Audio version: https://drive.google.com/file/d/177-ofCYBMyeP472Sgm8K8EE5LKwydJ-K/view?usp=drivesdk I read somewhere once that human beings are not individuals that choose to relate to one another but that we are inherently social creatures…we are made for friends.    I remember also reading someone commenting that they were not looking for a friendly church but a church where they can make friends.    So what is it about friends that we value so much?    We need to take care in using the word friendship as it can imply an almost abstract quality or principle, as in “ I am looking for friendship” or “our friendship is going through a rough time” etc.    “I am looking for a friend” or “my friend and I are having a rough time” has a more personal, intimate and in my view valuable sense to it.    It keeps central the unique person on the other side of this conversation, the other partner in this dance, the other t...

On being a Dad

Being a Dad Audio:  https://drive.google.com/file/d/177-ofCYBMyeP472Sgm8K8EE5LKwydJ-K/view?usp=drivesdk I remember with clarity the moments my two girls entered the world, 2 years and 2 months apart.    Abi kept us (especially my valiant Ina) waiting during a long and difficult labour and Hannah was so quick the midwife just caught her in no more.     When I twice heard those words ‘it’s a girl’ my heart exploded and my mind got bent out of shape.    All I could do was let the overwhelming wave of new life bear me away to destinations unknown.    Needless to say our lives changed forever and one of the joys is the relationship Ina and I have now with these two adult offspring of ours, 24 and 22 this summer.    They have taken very different paths and grown into two very different young women but I’d like to think they are both ‘making their way by walking’ and living congruently with who they are at this moment in ti...

The Beauty of Silence...

The Beauty of Silence... some thoughts from the Community of St Anselm...enjoy for 4 minutes https://youtu.be/6UzNujfU39A